On Greed and Jealousy
Greed is good. When met with a definiteness of purpose, bounded by integrity and self-confidence, greed is good. To put it in simpler words, knowing how much money you want is not important; knowing what you want to do with that money, for what purpose and how to get there are more important questions to answer. Money is simply the price tag of achieving that goal in mind and accumulating money is only a part of a 20 miles journey.

Greed, is key; moving up in life, wanting to do more is key. But moving up in the right direction is even more important. Throughout corporate history, I have seen too many times when greed, met with a definiteness of purpose and self-confidence but ill-guided by flawed values, led brilliant people to waste. Take Enron and Worldcom in the wake of the Dot.com bubble burst for example; take Countrywide Financial, Bear Stearns, Merrill Lynch and Citigroup at the start of the collateralized debt obligations (CDOs) saga for example. Unchecked greed was at work each and every time: smart people wanting to move up for their own good, paying no regards to what their actions might do to others. The latter incident was one that I knew all too well. How? Because I was there. I was on Wall Street last March interviewing with Merrill and Citigroup and I saw first hand what greed, unchecked by integrity, can do to people and companies:


So, a definiteness of purpose and integrity are necessary conditions for mutually beneficial greed to work, but they are not sufficient. Self-confidence, the antithesis of jealousy and insecurity, forms the third leg of the stool. The trick here is to learn how to handle your inner judge. How do we get jealous in the first place? We form images of ourselves and others, especially our peers, all the time. And your inner judge will always be critical of how well you have performed as compared to others: how you are slowed down by your integrity, by others, by circumstances, and by your own shortfalls. You begin to blame everyone but yourself. You start to wonder if you would reach your goals faster if only you have relaxed your moral criteria; to doubt the realism of your goals and the plan you have laid out to accumulate the money you need. Concurrently, you compare your shortfalls with others who have arrived at your goals and start to feel relatively small, helpless and insecure. Your helplessness angers you and you curse your comparable peer for making you feel terrible.
And then comes the crucial question: what do you do next? If you give up on yourself, all your prior efforts will be in vain. You prophecies of being small and helpless will be fulfilled. You have lost. On the contrary, if you pause and start to think about how much your peers must have sacrificed and how hard they must have worked to get to where they are today, then maybe there are some tricks out there that you may not know. So, why not reach out to these successful people and learn some lessons on how to move along faster, get things done quicker and ease yourself back onto the journey towards your goals?
Life is not a race, you are not in it for a trophy that has only one winner. And that's the source of self-confidence: knowing that your inner judge will have nothing to judge you with when there are no one to compare against. You are unique; you live the life you want. And if you do not attain what you have set out to do with your initial effort, do not give up. Go back to the drawing board to dice and slice goals up into manageable pieces and try to work with many smaller goals the next time. Celebrate achieving each small goal with mini rewards to know that you've done something important, and it is important! A journey of a thousand miles is made up of small steps, and as long as you know the direction and the ultimate goal you are after, every small step and lesson along the way will get you that much closer to your destination.

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